When you spend time to learn about who you truly are. You come to the realization that we are all weird/strange/different in our own way and that nobody is “normal”. Just like snowflakes from far we all appear normal, but as you get know us better we begin to see the complexities in each of us.
The thing about knowing what makes you different can leave you wanting to hide it when first meeting people. In the early stages of any relationship we all want to showcase the best version of ourselves. So we put all the things about ourselves that is not considered “normal” hidden away in the closet (skeletons included). As mentioned in an earlier post the need to be “normal” and fit in is just that, normal.
Let’s be honest we do this because we want people to like us. This leaves us in a situation where we have to put up an act (sorry can’t think of a better word at the moment) until we get back home to our safe zone. This act can be very exhausting.
Imagine a space where you can share your deepest secrets and thoughts with your partner. And knowing that after you share your thoughts your partner still loves you and doesn’t see you any differently than they did before. Such a space would be amazing, you can talk about anything you want and have no fear to say what you want and how you want.
This is the Judgment-Free Zone. As the name says it is a space free of judgment or criticism. It is almost like walking into a quarantined room, except this a room where you can share anything you want to your partner. In this room, you get to share the raw and unfiltered version of you and your thoughts. When you walk out the room you and your partner have same love for each other if not more as when you first walked in.
When it comes to a space or zone. It all boils down to communication. As Emily Morse says “Communication is Lubrication.” Create a positive space to express yourselves freely without having to worry if the other person will take it badly. In this same space, your partner is allowed to agree and disagree with you, all at the same time loving you regardless.
“Communication is Lubrication” – Emily Morse
I believe having such a space will help you learn to love and appreciate your partner on a new Physical, Mental and Emotional level. And hey we upgrade our phones why not upgrade the connection we have with our partner.
