Curiosity is the very spice of life. Yea yea I know it is suppose to be ‘variety is the spice of life’, but without being curious you can’t really find variety. Especially with sex. Sex isn’t like going to a restaurant where you can walk in be told what’s on the menu and make your choice.ย Sex is forever evolving as all parties grow more comfortable with each other with boundaries getting pushed, and hard limits turning into possibilities.
When it comes to having sex with a partner I feel like Curious George. In that I am always looking for things to try and explore. It’s about exploring the mental as much as it is the physical. At the very beginning of a relationship I like to find out all the things my partner is willing to do and try via the Love Questionnaire. I love this as sex with a partner is like discovering a new continent. I want to go to all ends of the land from the rough parts to the smooth parts.
Being curious doesn’t mean you need to have the kinkiest of things you want to try. Being curious just mean unconditionally open to hear all ideas. Whether you decide to act on them is your choice. Say you are not interested, do take the time to entertain your partner’s idea(s) by asking them about the how’s and the why’s.ย This could give you an insight to your partner’s thought process.
I leave you with stay curious and see what pleasures can be unlocked.
P.S. I know they say “curiosity killed the cat”, in this case forget a cat, I’m going with “a lack of curiosity kills imagination”
