Back in early 2004(I know because of Wikipedia not memory) watching an episode of the Chappelle Show, a skit caught my interest due to the humor and also the genius behind it. Watch below.
After watching the episode it had me thinking how can I get a clear picture of all the things my partner is willing and not willing to explore. I created the ‘Yes No Maybe’ list. The list is simple, it has 4 columns, the first had a list of sexual acts written vertically, the next three columns were left empty to check mark a Yes, No or Maybe. Maybe signifies something you are willing to try in the future when you are more comfortable. Keep in mind I created this list at the age of 17 light years before my time. Here is a short example of one, now imagine I had to recreate two copies of this (now that I write this I could have used a photo copy machine) oh well you live and you learn.
Years later I have come across a huge time saver called We Should Try It. What I like about the site is that everything is categorized from Basic, Playing with Toys, B.D.S.M., Anal Play, and to Group and Public Fun. You and your partner can fill it out on the same computer or you can do it separately by sharing an email link (includes partner’s questions and results ). The results page is what I love most as it only shows the things you both agree upon. This leaves out any misunderstanding, and it also opens a nice dialogue to explain or be explained how you would like something done.
These questions can be revisited every few months as you grow and explore new pleasures.
